With all the publicity from Kesha’s rape allegations against her producer, it’s time to discount this book again, because not even judges in a court of law understand the reality of the “imperfect rape victim.”
The reality is, most rape victims are not perfectly chaste, unsullied damsels who suddenly lose their honor. They might drink or do drugs. They might have active sex lives with multiple partners. They might party and go home with the wrong person. More often than not, they might even be in intimate relationships with their assailants, or otherwise know them personally. None of this makes them deserving of assault.
We don’t typically shame people who have been mugged for carrying large purses. We don’t shame drivers hit by speeding drunks for being on the road in the first place. We don’t throw out allegations of burglary simply because the homeowner left his door unlocked. But rape is the only crime in which the victim is somehow at fault, rarely the rapist.
This book is a work of passion and grief because my rapist was never charged, but hopefully it’s also an entertaining and enlightening look at the most common forms of assault, why accusations are rarely taken seriously, and why they should be. Even if you don’t read the book, take a look at some of the reviews on Amazon. One book won’t save the world, but it seems to have influenced a few people, and that is the best kind of “royalty” I could ever receive.
You can download the book here.