People of color are often used to hearing that they sound angry all the time. The "angry black woman" stereotype is especially common. What you may not know is that "angry Jewish woman," or simply "angry Jewish people," is also a Thing. And I'm one of them. In an unexpected way, the Trump era has… Continue reading Can anger be holy?
In many ways, my husband Josh and I are opposites. Despite both of us being Christians, introverts (well, he's more of an outgoing introvert), and passionate about cats, he attends an evangelical megachurch -- I attend a small Episcopal one. He finds liturgy "weird"; I love it. He's politically independent, but holds views that lean… Continue reading Jesus and relational boundaries
You've probably seen the viral video by now, or at least heard about it: white police officer Amber Guyger being hugged by the brother of the black man she killed when she entered his apartment, claiming it was her own. Brandt Jean told her, "If you are truly sorry, I know I can speak for… Continue reading They should know us by our love, not our dismissal of black suffering
It's a little uncomfortable when friends ask you in front of people you don't know how your new book is coming along, when the topic is suffering. What kind of person writes about that? It's not the kind of thing you want to broadcast if you're just being social at a party (not that I'm… Continue reading When hope is hard to find
This isn’t one of those books in which I assure you, from the comfort of my safe, suburban home, that everything happens for a reason. This isn’t one of those books that treats Christianity like a self-help regimen, in which I promise that if you live a certain way, you will earn Jesus Points that… Continue reading “Spinning Crap Into Fertilizer” now available for pre-order + introduction
Not long after "I Kissed Dating Goodbye" author Joshua Harris announced he is no longer a Christian, Marty Sampson, a songwriter for the Christian band Hillsong, did the same thing. In my social media feeds, people have expressed fear that their favorite Christian artist, author, or speaker might be next. As if deconversion is a… Continue reading When we are the reason they left
I don't consider myself a conservative or progressive Christian. I'm not sure what each label fully entails, but I do know I hold views that satisfy -- and irritate -- both groups. With that in mind, you can understand why it took me the entirety of my twenties to find the right denomination and church.… Continue reading Who am I offending, and why?
I once had a high school English teacher who told the class we could argue in our term papers that Shakespeare's Romeo and Juliet is about a cheese sandwich, and get full credit...if we could make a credible case for it, using textual and historical evidence. As far as I'm aware, no one wrote a… Continue reading On having a “flexible faith”
My phone pinged with an email notification from my freelance editor at Patheos, regarding the news of Mike Pence honoring the Pittsburgh synagogue shooting victims by inviting a Messianic rabbi to say a prayer at a rally. Naturally, that prayer invoked mentions of Jesus -- or rather, as he is known in Messianic circles, Yeshua… Continue reading The inherent deception of Messianic Judaism
Being misunderstood sucks. I'm not a big people-pleaser by nature, but it does bother me when I'm disliked for the wrong reasons. This doesn't happen too often, but the following scenario has happened to me more than once: New Jewish acquaintance: "So you grew up Reform, but then converted?" Me: "Basically, yeah." Them: "So you're… Continue reading Christians: let the Jews speak